A volcano goes through stages that lead up to an explosion; from steam and ash venting to lava build-up and eruption. Speaking up when you initially feel the need can keep an inner volcano dormant and avoid a verbal eruption.
“Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.
Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
Speaking up even before you need to let off some steam is a good place to start. It means that you are so in touch with how you feel that you don't need to wait until steam has built up from the chronic stress of resisting healthy emotional expression.
If you get to the point in your communication that you need to vent a little steam it's best to begin with 'I am feeling' rather than 'you make me feel' or 'so 'n so makes me feel' because as soon as you blame someone else for how you feel you...
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